Dealing with feelings
Feelings help us make sense of the world. They’re one of the things that make life interesting!
But an interesting thing about feelings is that they make a big difference to how we understand what’s going on. If you’re feeling scared or anxious and someone comes to talk to you, you might think: What do they want? What are they picking on me for? How can I avoid talking to them? But if you’re feeling relaxed or happy, you might think: Great - a new friend.
So, if there’s a lot going on for you and something stressful or worrying happens, stop and think: If I was in a different mood, would this seem different?
If your feelings are making things difficult for you, it’s important:
- To talk to someone you trust. This could be a friend, parent, teacher, young carer worker or member of the family. Sit down and explain it all, or just have a quick word while you’re doing something else. Whatever feels easiest.
- If you can’t think of how to describe how you feel, try writing down words, taking a photo, drawing a picture or thinking about what is going on in your head and what it makes you feel like doing.
- Just talking, and being listened to, can make a really big difference. So don’t be scared to try a few times with different people. Like everything else, it gets easier with practice.
- Find a way to express how you feel regularly. Whether it’s talking to a friend, writing stuff on Babble, posting a photo somewhere, emailing a helpline or chatting with a relative, it’s a great way to look after your mental health.
- Remember, you can always email the Babble team if you want to talk privately about something. We’ll get back to you within a day or so.
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